A situationship is when you’re romantically involved with a person but you’re not making it formal or putting a label on it. To be honest you can be in a situationship without realizing it. When you’re going on dates and doing what couples do with a person and he or she is either saying they aren’t ready for a relationship or you should take things one step at a time without being clear about their intentions with you, my darling you’re in a situationship. Stop falling for the ‘I care about you thingy’, some even go as far as saying ‘ oh my past relationships were bad, it damaged me’ lol. So the damage that was caused by the relationship did not affect your sexual life eh bros? You can trust people with your body but not your heart. My dear please get off the train of denial and see things for what they are.
Some people do not mind being in a situationship, they enjoy it and would even pick it over a relationship. If you fall under that category, this post right here isn’t for you.
If you feel like you want and deserve more/better than being in a situation, here are a few ways on how to avoid it.
Be mentally prepared for whatever is going to happen, and ask yourself questions like ‘ is this what I want ‘ is he or she treating me right’ ‘am I a priority’ ‘am I really in love? From here you’ll be able to tell what your next step would be.
Say how you feel: There are times the other person would need validation of their feelings. If you want more say it and if the other person doesn’t want it they’ll let you know except you’re dealing with a liar.
Say what you want: This right here is very important, saying how you feel is important but saying what you want is very important. It helps to focus on what needs to be focused on and at this point, if the other person is not interested, you should just move on.
Set boundaries: When you‘re talking to someone, establish boundaries, and let them know where you draw the line if you’re not getting what you want.
Do not invest in it. Don’t waste your time and energy on something or someone who is not sure about you, you’ll end up hurting yourself. See other people, go on dates, and move on.
know your worth: Do not settle for less of what you want. know what you want and stick to it.
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